“Marriages are made in heaven”.
Then why the hell do we get married here??????
Is that the ultimate goal of your life?
A companion is necessary to lift you up when you are feeling low, to lead you on the right track when you are confused, to help you when you are helpless, to share your thoughts, to appreciate, applaud, admire and to make you realize that you are good.
But y do we have to share this relationship only when married..? Why can’t u like a person, be his companion, walk together on the road of life, experience situations, brave challenges and live life on your terms?
It is a hindrance. The system is bad. Here you don’t marry a person, you marry the family. Is marriage only about sleeping together??? Making babies??? Cooking???
You are born. You are fed till you learn how to eat. You are sent to school, you are made to do homework, you are made to take up tests and pressurized to do well. You must stand out because you were given birth only to do well in life. You should have good scores or you are black marked. Finally you get over this and come to a professional course to get professional in life. Face new competitions, brave new exams, top the class, college perhaps or how about the university?
Next you get a job, your studies is almost over. Now you think you can lead life according to your norms, your taste which is completely yours. Then you are made to realize that your next and ultimate goal is MARRIAGE!!!!
Get up and get used to a ROUTINE new from the previous one!!
5 comments:
Everything in world follows a routine... Be it sun rise to sunset... Birth to death... Or anything for that matter....
But its how well and how uniquely you execute the same routine is what makes u special and the thing inmportant....
I guess a successful marriage is all about compatibility, a concrete definition we give to a wonderful feeling called love....
I agree to an extent it is the society that makes us do many a thing.... But even if i were to be in afree society, I would any day support marriage....
Its more a sense of commitment and a secure feeling which probably all of us require.
"A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short."
Each of all tht u said are short-term goals in life. Marriage isn't ur ultimate goal, just as being a Bachelor of Engg wasn't. Take things slow, i'm sure, now tht u'r a graduate ur parents are compelling u into this. But who better than u to tell them wat u feel. And am surprised ur actually moaning. I would've loved to put tht decisive mark on the relationship, which only makes it stronger and fulfilling.
I had asked similar questions to myself. Didn't had answers and when tried to find them, they were not satisfying.
Is this the same routine everyone should follow, is the basic underlining question???
I too don't want to follow the same routine but can one do that. I don't think. If we try to go some different way, then we might not have had the same question as we have today.
Let's say, if we were one of saints. How boring is their life. What is there, just a less number of things that we have: Born, go to ashram for learning, try to understand God (till end of their life they do this), try to achieve something whos existence nobody knows and in order to do that they leave those wordly pleasures, which are too simple to get and part of almost 99.99 % of peoples life.
It is difficult to lead this simple life. I don't know u have faced or not. It so happens that, one wants to study (a normal routine behavior) but does not have books(not a philosophical thought but some experience there) and many daily things which somehow almost 10% of people might get are not available to 89.99% And these 10% people get things so easily that they forget the essence of routine. (Again i am not critisizing, but take in constructive manner.)
Am i living the same routine? No. One important part of everyones routine which distinguishes them from other is : DREAMS.
We live for achieving dreams, we work for dreams to come true. If one is not doing this then we are doing same routine things and if one is really dreaming, we have really stood out of the routine and are unique with this aspect.
I have dream to make a space ship one day. Impossible!!! But working towards a goal is important not achieving it. If real hardwork is done for goal then after achieving this goal automatically extends (again personal experience there).
So, ur topic was marriage but i saw it in general as "Why should i follow what each and every person in society does?? How unique i am from other??? Mind, but these the questions for which u needed answers.."
Don't u have anything positive to work for the society...
Don't you have any constructive work to do...
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